Notes for Valentines Day
Wishing you a Valentines Day that is filled with love.
Faster than you can blink an eye,
love circles the planet and fills the sky.
Your light grows brighter with each heart you meet,
It starts when you’re still and feel your heart beat.
Inside out, outside in, Send love out and bring it in.
If you’ve ever attended a child’s class Valentine party,
you’ve seen how enthralled children are to open each and every
valentine. Starting around age three, children not only enjoy receiving
valentines, they take great delight in giving them. Many children also
begin to express their affection and love by drawing and presenting
their pictures and homemade cards to their parents and teachers. Most
parents receive an assortment of pictures and cards containing colorful
rainbows, hearts, and words of love--which are all the more precious
because they have been written phonetically. These pictures and love
notes will fill your heart--as well as boxes, files, and a significant
portion of your garage.
For parents and their children, Valentine’s Day includes the lovely
ritual of expressing their love through the exchange of cards. But if
you’re only giving your children cards and notes on Valentines
Day and on their birthdays, you’re missing out on a wonderful
opportunity. Through the written word, parents can express love, encouragement,
appreciation, concern, and understanding. It’s also an effective
way to settle a misunderstanding, offer an apology, or express constructive
During the turbulent teen years, notes and letters can be a wonderful
way to keep the lines of communication open and to gain a deeper understanding
of your child. And while it’s easy to let a thoughtless or angry
remark slip out of our mouths, writing notes requires us to be reflective
as we carefully choose the words that will communicate a clear and thoughtful
Sometimes, older children and teens are more comfortable expressing
their heartfelt emotions through the written, rather than the spoken
word. My teenage daughter writes me notes with a depth of thoughtfulness
and understanding that takes my breath away. The colorful cards of her
childhood have been replaced by letters that express her growing maturity,
love, and the agony and joy of young adulthood. Whether your child is
three years old or seventeen--cards, notes, and letters, are a great
way to deliver a message of love and understanding.
Here are some ways to use the written word in your relationship
with your child:
Use notes to express love.
Children can’t be told too often that we love them or that we’re
thankful to be their parent. In addition to telling your children that
you love them, leave little love notes in visible places—taped
to the bathroom mirror, by the front door, etc.
Use notes to express appreciation and thanks.
When your child surprises you by straightening a room or helping with
the dishes, write a quick thank-you note and tape it where he or she
is sure to spot it.
Use notes to congratulate and celebrate.
Young children love to receive mail. Occasionally, surprise your child
by sending a congratulatory note in the mail. For example, “Congratulations!
You finished your science project! Let’s celebrate with a scoop
of ice cream!”
Use notes to apologize.
If you lose your temper, or make a mistake that affects your child,
write an apology note. You will be teaching your children to accept
responsibility for their actions and to make amends to anyone who is
harmed by them.
Use notes to remind.
While verbal reminders can feel like nagging, notes can clearly list
the chores your child is expected to do.
Use notes to encourage.
When your child will be facing a particular challenge at school, tuck
a note in his lunchbox or backpack saying, “You can do it,”
or, “I have faith in you!”
For older child or teens:
Use notes to gain understanding and to stay close.
Share a journal with your older child or teen. Pass it back and forth
and keep it in a place where each of you can get to it and easily express
Use notes to show concern and clear up misunderstandings.
If your child becomes defensive and angry when you try to correct his
behavior, notes can be especially effective. A thoughtful note can clear
up a misunderstanding and help to ensure that constructive criticism
is taken in the spirit that it is intended.
A Complete Guide for Parents on children's Sleep and Relaxation
- The original Floppy Sleep Game CD & 7 additional tracks
- A 4-week program for kids who refuse to snooze
- Bedtime activities, rituals & relaxation techniques
- Tips for relieving stress & anxiety
- Foods & supplements that promote sleep.
- Information on sleep disorders
- Tips for relieving stress & anxiety
- Health problems & neurobiological disorders that affect sleep
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Patti Teel is the fairy godmother of peaceful bedtimes.
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Patti Teel is the creator of a highly acclaimed
audio series that teaches children a fail-proof way to relax themselves
to sleep through relaxation exercises (based in yoga), visualizations,
music & storytelling. And now her new book for parents,
The Floppy Sleep Game, picks up where the recordings left off.
It contains a step-by-step program for parents to follow and teach
their children to relax and/or fall asleep. The techniques
from The Floppy Sleep Game book also help children cope with fear
and anxiety in a healthy way.
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The Dream Maker's February Dream Starters
Dream Starters are visualizations which promote relaxation,
imagination and well-being as they guide children into the world of
To prepare for these dream starters, (or visualizations), create a
quiet comfortable atmosphere in which your child can relax.
Step One ~ Progressive Relaxation (Tensing & Relaxing Muscle Groups)
Have your child lie down in his bed. Have him lift each arm and
leg individually, holding each limb tightly before loosely flopping
it down on his bed. Then have him wrinkle his face and hold his
eyes tightly closed, before relaxing his face. (Tense each muscle
group for at least 5 seconds.)
Step Two ~ Focus on the breath
Have your child get very quiet and watch his own breath.
Step Three ~ Creative Visualization
Now that your child is relaxed, read (or tell) one of the following
visualizations. Of course, feel free to modify it according to
your child’s age and interests.
By creating their own special place, children will be making a retreat
for relaxation, a place they can visit at will, through visualization.
You can stop at the end of this short visualization, or continue with
“A Special Letter,” which corresponds with the theme of
this month’s newsletter.
My Special Place
(Excerpt from The Floppy Sleep Game Book)
Close your eyes. Imagine your own special place, a beautiful place
where you are relaxed, happy, and safe. (Pause) Decide whether your
special place will be inside or at a beautiful spot outdoors. (Pause)
It can be anywhere you want it to be: in a castle, in a garden, in the
woods, by the ocean, or even in Dream Land. It’s totally up to
you. (Pause) Walk around your special spot. (Pause) See the colors and
smell the air. (Pause) You can come here whenever you’d like.
Your special place is a wonderful place to relax and dream. Find a comfortable
spot to lie down and relax. (Pause) Enjoy how wonderful it feels. (Pause)
What do you see around you? (Pause) What do you hear? (Pause) Remember
everything about your special place: how it looks, feels, and smells.
(Pause) You can come here whenever you’d like. (Pause) Dream dust
sprinkles down upon you, filling your special place with warmth and
making all your dreams come true.
(Continue, or if you’d like a shorter visualization, you may
wish to begin here.)
A Special Letter
Through the sparkling dream dust, a letter is slowly floating down
towards you. Watch it as it turns this way and that, before gently landing
on top of your heart. Perhaps it came from your special angel. Pick
it up and carefully unfold the paper. The letter says: Be happy. Be
healthy. You are safe. You are loved. You are valued. The loving words
make your heart feel warm. (Pause)
Sparkling, glittery dream dust magically appears at the bottom of the
letter. The sparkles form words that say, Pass it on. Think of someone
you’d like to send the letter to. Choose someone you love. It
could be your Mom or your Dad, your Grandma or Grandpa, or a special
friend. (Pause) When you’ve decided who to send the letter to,
fold it up and toss it into the air. (Pause) A soft breeze picks up
the letter and magical dream dust carries it to the person you’ve
chosen. (Pause) Imagine how happy that person is to receive the letter.
Reading it, the person’s heart grows warm, and so does yours.
(Pause) Again, sparkling, glittery dream dust magically appears at the
bottom of the letter--forming words that say, Pass it on.
All through the night, the letter is passed to boys and girls, moms
and dads, and grandmas and grandpas all around the world. Everyone who
receives the letter feels good. And it feels just as wonderful to pass
it along and make someone else happy. People everywhere feel happy,
healthy, safe, loved and valued---just like you.
Have the special letter contain specific words of encouragement, crafted
to help your child with a challenging situation that he or she may be